Nov 7, 2009

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Nov 2, 2009

international affairs

It's not that Americans cheat any less than the French -- in fact they cheat a bit more -- it's just that when Americans do cheat on their spouses they feel so damn guilty about it, it's a wonder they ever had the affair at all. To Americans, "it's not the cheating, it's the lying." And couples who don't break up over infidelity often turn to therapy and support groups, which, ironically, frequently encourage cheating spouses to reveal every last detail about their illicit relationships to regain the trust that was lost when their pants came off in the first place.

So goes the American infidelity script, as it is unraveled by former Wall Street Journal reporter Pamela Druckerman in her new book, "Lust in Translation." Druckerman traveled to 10 countries to investigate, as her subtitle puts it, "The Rules of Infidelity From Tokyo to Tennessee." Author met a lot of people, found new friends and through dozens of interviews with middle-class urbanites, the author, who devotes a chapter to each country she visits, debunks -- and sometimes confirms -- national myths, stereotypes and pastimes. Along the way she discovers that people in poor countries tend to cheat more than people in wealthy countries, that in America men and women under 40 have nearly equal rates of infidelity, and that everyone, all over the world, sometimes gets hurt. While the evidence she presents is primarily anecdotal and backed up by statistics that even she admits are imperfect, Druckerman still manages to give a structure to national sexual habits, a kind of cultural script for how affairs are supposed to go -- even if they don't always go so smoothly.

Oct 31, 2009

russian singles in Denver

Don't limit yourselves, russian singles in Denver has been using Internet dating for decades. This russian dating industry has boomed as more and more singles learned how to meet people via cyberspace. For those singles who are living and working in Denver, there are many community websites such as Meet In Denver and Denver Meet Up that are ways to form groups in your area of interest and then have other people join you in your pursuit of having fun or meeting other people.

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You can as well join a specialty russian dating site where you can meet russian singles not just in Denver, but all over the states or even in Russia and other FSU countires. The russian dating sites like LuckyLovers.net give you the possibility to browse thousands of ads of russian singles in USA and Russia.


• There are many ways and means on meeting russian singles. Don't stick to just one avenue. Check LL dating site , check out other sites, meet people at local Denver events, don't go to just one, go to many different events.

• Be safe. This goes without saying, as we need to be careful in meeting people at first until we get to know them.

• Have fun. Leave your serious side at home and just go out and meet people

Oct 25, 2009

Russian Jewish singles dating

for a long time it was a J Date - dating site for Jews where one could find Jewish singles for dating and marriage, but not any more, J Date quoted 11% gentiles on the site, but Jewish singles who are using the site state that this figure is grossly underestimated. There are close to 40% non-Jews on Jdate (and this number is increasing) and when Jewish singles complain to J date they refused to do anything about it. J Date advertises on several Jewish websites (newspapers, etc.) as the dating service for Jewish singles but visitors to their site are hard pressed to find the words "Jewish" or "Jew" anywhere on their site.



When J date was asked why can't they have featured prominently on their site that "J date is a dating service for Jewish singles" their reply was "that's illegal." Is it illegal for the Baltimore Jewish Times or The Jewish Week of New York to have the word "Jewish" featured all over their sites or as part of their name? No.

What J date is all about is attracting as many people, Jews and non-Jews to their site, so they can sell memberships and they could not care less if J date is fast becoming only 50% Jewish membership and soon Jewish members will be the minority, again the minority!

Is it really so much to ask that a JEWISH dating website says that it is a website for Jewish singles??

Oct 21, 2009

nothing personal, just dating?

My name is Terry McAllen, I’m from Ireland and here is my internet dating love story. I did not have any problems with my personal life and there were always a lot of girls around. But at the same time there was always a feeling of loneliness as well. So after some time I found the way to solve my problem with the help of the internet. I was parting and having fun as before but I had some rather serious conversations with the people (girls mostly from all over the world) through the net. Actually now I'm feeling that more and more people are starting to meet each other over the internet and make the connections which make them fuller. And I pity those who have so narrow choice for the soul mates years ago. I never net anybody interesting to me in the bar or disco, so how they did manage that???

All that makes me wonder if my story is that unique I think it is. I know there are many other stories like mine but I decided to share it with you, because even being alike all case is personal and only one possible.

I have been looking for my special someone since I was 28 years old. I got the feeling I need a girlfriend and mate rather early and that is why I was rather a guy to mock at while all my mates were rather satisfied with what they had.

After years and years of unsuccessful searching I decided to give international dating sites a try. I registered on a few of them and well, it was an overwhelming success. I got so many letters from here and there that I even did not care about answering all of them – now I would act differently, by the way.

Elisabeth whom I met on luckylovers was the most stubborn of them all from the very beginning. She sent me so many letters sometimes with nothing but a smile there, that I did not value those letters so much (so sad I did not keep all of them, because of my carelessness, if only I knew). I was flirting with many girls everywhere, but she was also the one who would always tell me she didn't want to date but rather be friends. And then in a while she stopped writing and after a week or so I’ve got the feeling I miss her stupid cards and just smiles, but the most terrible thing was that I did not knew anything about her, I mean we did not exchange our e-mail addresses or phone numbers....no way possible was left to contact her outside luckylovers. And here it all started, every time I logged in I checked her profile but it was not active anymore, she did not logged in and that was all. You would not believe the world crashed to me when once I saw her online, I wrote her warm letter and guess what….she did not answered…she was often on the site, but made her profile unavailable for private talk and did not answer my letters. That was all so sad, nobody existed there since that time only she… my beautiful Ukrainian dream who kept silence.

I started thinking this all over and understood that from the very beginning I knew I had found someone very special but she was always so close and always ready to chat that I could not even thing she is possible to get lost.
So I was sitting the whole Saturday evening and typing a long letter of mine about this all (I even did not know whether she would read it) but it ended up with the words: Will you marry me?
And I got the answer with a short word “Yes” only!!! In an instant your whole world is turned completely upside down. Have you ever seen a monkey dance? If yes, you can easily imagine me doing the same. I print this Yes in huge letters and hang it on the wall. Then I asked her all her contacts to be sure I will never lose her anymore.

We met in person in three months in Odessa and….we never were aside since that. Yea, our physical bodies were apart for some time but she lives in my soul and will be living there ever after. And from December she lives not only in my soul, but in my house also))

Best Whishes to all,
Terry and Elisabeth McAllen

Oct 16, 2009

those russian names

Do you ever find it hard to remember those difficult Russian women names? You can still remember those beautiful faces, but those foreign names are so damn difficult to remember that it gets more frustrating with every new woman you meet? well, you are not the only one.

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One of the way to remember is repetition, repetition, repetition. When you start your introduction with a russian woman, repeat her name several times when you write her a letter, keep repeating it in every chat you have or in every new email you send. "Hi, Sveta, nice to meet you. What kind of work you do, Sveta? Do you have any kids, Sveta? Sveta, I love talking to you, lets meet in chat tomorrow? Take care Sveta!"

Another memory method is to prounance her name not like Russians do, but find an equvalent in English and use English name - for example "Masha" is "Mari" , "Alena" is "Helen" , "Alisa" is "Alice", "Annya" is "Ann" etc.

Some russian women have famous names or have the same names as famous russian actresses or sportswomen have. example, if you are dating a woman whose name is Anastasiya, this one is easy to remember thanks to princess Anastasia, Natasha - Natasha from Russia, Anna is easy to remember if you link it to Anna Kournikova,
you go the idea?

If you forgot your russian or ukrainian bride's name, do not ask her again, do your best to find out what her name is by any other ways possible, women take serious offense when guys they are attracted to, do not remember their names. )))

Oct 12, 2009

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Oct 11, 2009

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" ... An idea of internet dating was wondering in my head since the town I live is not very big and I was often too busy at work to be able to meet new people.
Ok, I used this dating site and I saw his profile and decided to contact him. After two weeks i received a short respond from him. Short, brief thank you reply and that’s all, I thought he was too polite not to answer at all, but not interested really. It was by chance that we met online, we just apparently logged in at the same time! Amour shot his arrow!!! We spent our time chatting right away… and it was far more than 3 hours. Later on we exchanged couple of emails and our pictures too (neither his nor mine profile have them from the very beginning). On our 4th mail we exchanged our contact numbers and we started calling each other, emailing, chatting, text messages, snail mail. We used all possible ways of correspondence, although he is in Denver, USA and me in Kazakhstan, actually we kept in touch in every possible way. Soon we began to like and miss each other so much that could not spend a day without each other and i knew for sure that he is the man i have been waiting for.

Finally we decided to meet in person. I told my family about him and he told his family about me, but we still have to wait for some time. Ok, it was all pretty difficult to explain everything to my parents, they were not ready to accept such kind of relationships and they were really suspicious. Sometimes their suspicions passed to me and it were the moments of despair, but his only call or single mail calmed me down and everything became clear and evident by itself. All negative thoughts disappeared at the same moment.

It happened so that at that moment his close friend was flying to Kazakhstan on business and he decided not to wait till summer and follow him. I took a short vacation for 5 days and flew down to see him at my friend's place in Astana. So we met ...and the rest is history. I came back and we informed both our families. His family could not come for a proposal as mine wanted but we settled this down and they accepted him alone, lol. Ok, he arrived again in three months for a formal proposal and it was definitely accepted.

So we are engaged and now we are finalising our marriage dates and all this paper work and we can't wait to be together as real husband and wife soon. I understand that a long way is ahead and it is so difficult to be separate when you are already one being, but I am happy and thankful to ALLAH for allowing me to meet such a wonderful, understanding and a lovely man. I believed strongly that sincerity is the key to a success and all our efforts will be rewarded shortly....
Adia and Kent. "

Oct 7, 2009

meet russian singles online

Of all the things that technology has brought us over the past decade or two, online dating has perhaps made the biggest difference in the everyday lives of people.

Those who stayed at home alone on a Friday night, can now get online and meet someone to go out with.

Studies report that the majority of people find their mates at work or at school. But for those who are past school, and don’t work in a traditional setting, that doesn’t work, we obviously out of ways to meet singles.

Some people meet singles in bars or churches, but if you are not a drinker, or not a church goes, then you are out of luck.

So for those who are non-drinkers, non-religious, and don’t work in mainstream business occupations, and plus want to meet russian singles, people from a foreign country like Russia - online russian dating is absolutely perfect.

Using online russian dating, you can find someone who suits you on different levels. Some russian dating sites, like LuckyLovers.net feature thousands of russian singles for you to meet, others will match you and your russian date based on your personality traits, likes and dislikes, and hobbies, etc. third will simply sell you email address of russian singles.

Overall, russian online dating is a great way to meet singles, find new friend and possibly establish a romantic connection, it is not that rare, there are more and more couple who have met online, fell in love and got married. You can search for russian singles by location, interests, size, or occupation. You can search for someone who likes to fish or you can find someone who loves dogs as much as you do.

Oct 4, 2009

Muslim women

Muslim women are winning elections, but women's rights are still an issue in the Muslim world.

In Pakistan, schools for girls are being burned down by the Taliban. In Afghanistan, a new law was just passed which makes marital rape legal. While in Iran, a presidential candidate's wife hits the campaign trail, and in Kuwait and Iraq, women are winning elections. In Cairo, president Obama talked about equality and education for Muslim girls and women.

Muslim women still face brutal repression in many countries, but in others they are breaking new ground. Guest host Sara Terry explores the view from the Muslim world, the role the United States should play in championing women's rights in other culture, and the impact of Michelle Obama might have on the changing landscape for women.

Before President Obama spoke, no one was sure if he was even going to talk about women's rights. Did he go far enough? What can a new US administration and a new First Lady do to help forward the cause of women's rights in the Muslim world? How are Muslim women forging their own gains in male-dominated societies?

Sep 26, 2009

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Sep 22, 2009

Latvian woman in Seattle

Latvian woman living in Seattle, WA, USA shares her dating and marriage story:

I had used another dating service, but after a bad experience with a guy that ended up following and chasing me I decided to switch to some other. I choose luckylovers dating site from the others, because here I had more control over who spoke to me and I could choose (you would not believe but there were sites I was pushed to answer to everybody if want to be a member). How stupid I was! So, it was 7:14pm and I had just finished doing checking’s for my business on the computer when I got a message that said "Hi I'm online right now and want to chat" I looked at his profile and saw that he was from the USA, Seattle, Washington. That was terribly so far that I thought to myself why not, he is so long way away!

I was really shocked when he said his name was Rudolph - it was hard to believe but that was the same name as that first man had. So from the very beginning I was so sceptical and did not believe a word, but still chatted. Oh, these women! So this started many hours on the computer, long phone calls, sms messages to our cell phones and then we realised that there we were becoming more than just friends. We missed each other and lived only from call to chat.

We both felt the internet was a great mean of getting to know someone from the inside out – no physical contact, but only that inner attraction by personality.
He arrived in Latvia in half a year and it was as it had to be – everything was great. After that meeting when we knew we are already together there were so many things in our life – it looked like the fate was asking us – Are you sure? I got seriously ill and he helped me, then he lost his job and I tried to help him (unfortunately I could only support him verbally, but now he jokes that I was the best psychologist and if not me that would be much worse. Now when all this came to an end I think that these obstacles were necessary to us to overcome and to become stronger. Now we are together, I entered the University in the USA and we are working on our papers. I do still get homesick and his daughter continues to give me problems but I’m the happiest woman in the Earth to have this little great family of mine. We are planning to go to Latvia altogether this so we can finally all meet my family! (My mom has not seen her granddaughter yet and this is only one sad thing to live so far away –missing friends and relatives).

it is sometime so hard to believe that one single Latvian girl met her best American man and got a beautiful daughter in the most unexpected places, like on a dating site. Lama and Rudolph.

Sep 18, 2009

is travel to Russia safe?

- There's always the chance of terrorism

- You can be abducted by aliens and have various probes inserted into your orifices within a week

- You will end up being taken hostage by a maniac there

- Everybody there are maniacs. Be very careful. Hostages are taken just on streets by hundreds.

- Beware of gopniks! Like these:



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- Beware of the bears roaming the streets of almost every city in Russia

- Learn Russian because nobody speaks English

- You have a high chance to lose your сell or wallet and probably be beaten in the process

- You may wake up to find myself in a tub full of ice, missing your kidneys

- You might be sold to slavery

- They are all communists and hate westerners

- Police in Russia wont help you unless you bribe them


are you scared to go to Russia yet? LOL, I hope you get it, it was a joke and I am laughing my teeth off

Sep 14, 2009

russian women dating tips

* Despite cheap prostitutes available, Russia is not a good place for sex tourism. Unless, of course, you are looking for a quick and uncreative way to part with your money and pick up something embarrassing if not downright nasty.

* Avoid dating agencies that offer catalogs of pretty faces. This approach automatically puts you in the position of a client picking up a piece of meat off the rack. Use dating sites.

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* Don't expect anyone to do the job for you while you just fly in and out with your trophy.

* Avoid the "rich foreigner" image.

* Do not rush into binding decisions.

* Do not let yourself be a duped.

* Spend time in Russia. Socialize. Get a job, which is quite easy if you know English and have minimal teaching skills - there are plenty of vacancies in language schools.. Let a circle of acquaintances form naturally. With some luck you will find the right woman.

* Be ready for linguistic and cultural challenges. Learn Russian well enough to understand what is happening around you.

Sep 7, 2009

Kiev girl's love and new life in USA

Well it all started when I was dismissed from university in December 2005. My mom was far away and seemed did not care much for me, my health state was terrible and my financial situation urged for improvement. As far as I could not pay for my studies anymore – I was dismissed. I was deeply sad and there were not seen any slightest light in the end of the tunnel. I decided started looking for a job, but since I was ill I was staying at home on money my father sent me (it happened from time to time when he remembered he has a daughter. So I was deeply depressed, ill and I urgently needed a loving shoulder to cry on, but I hate the thought about seeing any of people who surrounded me when everything was well and I was just a spoiled daughter of wealthy parents. I was sitting in a flat in the centre of Kiev ( the one bought to me by my parents during their last awareness about my existence) and searching the net trying to find at least somebody who could willingly (or unwillingly) listen to my awful story about how life could be unjust.
So I logged in on the several singles sites where I was a member and started chatting. It was around the midnight when the pop up window with Private Talk popped up on luckylovers dating site and that was the first time I met Jeff. He told he found me on the list of those who were online and contacted me, but then something with electricity happen and I the connection was broken. After an hour or so, I was online again and I tried to find him. He was in the list of those who has recently viewed my profile so I found him easily. He was still online, he later told me that was waiting and hoping I would appear sooner or later. Well, Jeff is rather self-confident, the feature I really like in people. He also told me that he was trying to contact me before and without any results. I must admit there were some cases I left my computer when I was logged in and then only closed the windows of Private Talk which popped up when I was away.
Soon we were chatting away talking about small things, and then he said that he had to go to bed, as it was almost morning in the USA. It was late evening where I was and I still had nothing to do and I really regretted he had to go as I started enjoying the conversation. So again and again I was waiting for him and we chatting for hours, I even put ”do not disturb” sign to prevent anybody contacting me anymore. At least when we were speaking…
I trusted him so much and he pushed me to get back to the University, I had to pay for my studies at this time but he convinced me that this way is the best one, he even helped me with my individual works on literature and that eventually brought more subjects to be discussed.
The summer break was coming up for me from college, so we thought it would be a good time for us to hop on a plane and at least meet each other. We decided to do this in the third country, Bulgaria. I told my folks that I was going to Bulgaria for the summer break, and they really did not like the idea of me staying with somebody I had met on the internet, there was a big argument there, but they didn't stop me from going.
The last is history as they say, but the most wonderful history possible as I am living in the USA and we are waiting a child. Nelya and Jeff.

Aug 28, 2009

Russian beautiful women

For foreign men Anna Kournikova is a symbol of Russian beautiful woman. Other famous Russians adored in the West, are Natalya Vodyanova, Evgeniya Volodina, Sasha Pivovarova, Anna Vyalitsina, Maria Sharapova and many others.

On various resorts Russian women are well-groomed, bright, with make up and high heels on. Every day millions of young Russian women go outside like if they go on the catwalk: with perfect hairdo, manicure and chiropody, best attires high heels on. In this way they go shopping. The distance of the trip doesn’t matter – it can be a small shop round the corner or a trade center on the other side of the city.

travelersdigest has a list of top 10 countries with the most beautiful women
and Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Latvia and Estonia - 5 FSU countries has made to top beautiful women list.

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10. Denmark
the women of Denmark are remarkable in their beauty & their charm.

9. Netherlands
Dutch girls have to be some of the world's most amazing. Dutch women have more than that, they're complete, they're incredible, they're the kind of girls who hang out drinking wine in the park with you randomly philosophizing, & they're also the kind of girls who will makeout with you in that same very park. (If they like you of course, this is not a poor country, it's about who you are, the girls here aren't impressed by status or anything like that.)


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8. Estonia
Ahh & now the Eastern European countries come into play. Estonia is a very small country, & seemingly insignificant, but it's astonishing if only because of the girls. Beautiful they are, you can find some of the world's best looking women in any nightclub in Tallinn's Old Town, on any day of the week.


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7. Ukraine
The Black Sea coast of the Ukraine is world famous for gorgeous girls in scantily clad bathing suits. And rightly so, but more so than that the entire country is filled to the brims with beautiful women. From Odessa to Kiev, the Ukraine beauty.


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6. Belarus
It's often been said that Eastern Europe is the valley of beautiful women, & in that context Belarus is one of the more fertile spots. Sure the country may be drab, dreary, & socialist architecture reigns supreme, but the women are to die for. They manage to turn this country from extremely boring, to a place you never want to leave.

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5. Latvia
Latvia is just wondrous. This little Baltic nation, such a small country, with hardly no international fame or reputation, is home to some of the world's most beautiful girls hands down. Drop-dead beauties roam the streets, & they're friendly too, can't beat that now can you?

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4. Bulgaria
Bulgaria may as well change its name to "Beautyland" as it is a proverbial theme park of beautiful women. Everything from dark hair to light, & from bright eyes to well brighter eyes. Bulgaria is filled with amazing women all the way from the mountainous region of the capital Sofia to the beautiful beaches on the Black Sea coast.

3. Russia
This list has pretty much read out as an Eastern European geography lesson, & with good reason. Slavic women are the most beautiful overall in the world, & Russia is the big leagues as far as Eastern Europe goes. The women here are not only beautiful, they're seductive. With one glance they can capture your heart, they look at you as if they know they could do anything in the world & you'd like it, & basically that's true.

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2. Argentina
Argentina is definitely the cream of the crop as far as Latin America, well really as far as the whole Western Hemisphere goes. Argentineans, specifically those of Buenos Aires are a people made up mostly of Italian migrants from the 19th & early 20th century, but I must say that they must have been migrants from Milan all with super model genes, because the people here are stunning.

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1. Sweden
Of course Sweden lands at the number one spot. How could it not, it's Sweden for goodness sake! The women here are so ridiculously beautiful that it's hard to breathe sometimes when in their presence. Blond hair, & bright eyes, personalities that are beautiful to match, what more could anyone ever ask for?

Aug 23, 2009

Real Russian Girls

There are statistically more women than men in the world... You have great chances! Just live your life, don't be desperate. Be friendly, make lots of friends, be yourself and a relationship will fall into your lap when you least expect it!

There are thousands and thousands of russian girls online seeking for love.. dating.. marriage and sometimes money, no one can vouch for the intentions of every single person who goes in search of a date or a marriage partner. Many western men find it incredible that girls, especially these so called "russian brides", really want these things - fidelity, commitment, family. Knowing how much scam and marriage fraud is associated with many many Russian Brides agencies, it is tempting to dismiss women who claim to want these things all together;

If you are looking, essentially, be cautious, use common sense and try not to force it, and it won't happen, relax... Don't obsess over what you think you don't have and you'll soon be pleasantly surprised!

Aug 19, 2009

online dating

Making that big decision to take online dating seriously is a leap of faith. It is a leap of faith because you have a certain degree of hope in your heart that somehow… somewhere… someday… you will meet that special someone whom you want to spend the rest of your life with. it is a leap of faith because there is also a great chance that there is actually no one there for you and what you only have is your hope and faith.

However, once you set on using russian online
dating sites, you will have great prospects of meeting new friends and possibilty of finding HER, your
beautiful Russian bride. Great prospects doesn’t necessarily mean that you will find the One. Great prospects doesn’t necessarily mean your work is done.

To date and finally marry that special woman you dream about means investment: a lot of hard work, patience and perseverance.

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You need a lot of patience, and you need it without limitations. Patience will keep you in the game. Patience will fuel your engine. Patience will give you the power to hold on. Hard work and patience get a real backing up with perseverance. They both get a big push with perseverance on hand because hanging on gives one the benefit of the doubt for the hard work done and the profit of being patient. Online daters should be tough. Online daters should be vigilant. Online daters should have a certain degree of firmness to handle ups and downs.

During long years of hard work, patience and perseverance you will meet all kinds of women, great and tricky, honest and dishonest, ugly... beautiful... young.. old... you will have virtual relationships you can not even imagine in the real world. You will get experience and continue to work hard, be patient.

It might be easy for you, there are always exception, but if it does not and will be exactly hard and long and sometimes devastating.. still do not give up, your big love will find you.. or you will find her....

Aug 16, 2009

Russian Beauties

Russian artist Igor Tcholaria’s reworks Modigliani’s women, Picasso, the Commedia dell’Arte and the circus. Tcholaria’s work was once banned by the Soviet state; considered “too radical” according to his agent. This all changed once the art establishment became less in awe of those in power and began to question their motives.

Russian Beauties - a selection of his work opens at Hay Hill gallery in Mayfair this week. For a taster click here.

Aug 14, 2009

young Russian women in Norway

Increasing globalization and international mobility have gradually affected the marriage market in Norway, the factor that has contributed to the increase in marriages where the women is a lot younger than the man is called mail order marriages.

In 2002,

7 out of 10 marriages entered into were between two Norwegian citizens

10% were marriages between two immigrants

7% were between a Norwegian woman and a foreign man

12% were between a Norwegian man and a foreign woman.

The latter group in particular has increased dramatically in recent years, with the majority of men marrying women from non-western countries, especially young Russia and Asia women. These women are often much younger than their Norwegian husbands. Whilst the proportion of marriages where the man was at least 6 years older in marriages between two Norwegian citizens was only 20 per cent, the figure was almost 60 per cent for marriages between Norwegian men and foreign women. Additionally, in the increasing percentage of marriages between persons with an immigrant background, the man is often much older.